I Freaked Out, But This Value Kept Me Going

I’ve been having a crazy morning.

I got up and pretty much once I was done with brushing my teeth, I went into full on panic attack mode.

I was thinking about how difficult business was. And how difficult it is to make sales. And about the bills I have to pay. And the fact that my baby girl is growing up – fast! (and that I need to make money for school fees and all that)

All of that stuff – it can get depressing really fast. And that’s when I had a panic attack.

After I calmed down a bit, I went back to basics and started reasoning why I was doing what I was doing.

And the answer was: I wanted to be true to myself.

Do you know how many people are SUFFERING everyday, without being true to themselves? You and I both know that’s not a small number.

And you and I both know that it’s a big problem.

And you and I both know that there’s a way to fix this.

Read on.

Situation

• You agree to whatever demands others place on you
  • You agree to stuff even if…
    • It’s not your job
    • It’s not right for you
    • It’s not what you want
    • It’s not your fault
    • You don’t want to do it
    • You’re not comfortable
  • You’re stressed out all the time
• You put on masks just so that…
  • Others like you
  • You can be accepted
  • You can fit in
  • You don’t hurt other people’s feelings
• You are often treated like a doormat
  • People abuse your generosity
  • You rarely get what you want
  • You’re unhappy that you can’t be your fullest self

Cause

• You place other people’s needs before your own
  • You mould yourself excessively to suit their needs
• You sacrifice
  • Your happiness
  • Your ethics
  • Your values
  • Whatever’s important to you
• Deeper reason
  • You don’t know what you want
  • Your sense of self worth is low
  • You’re unable to communicate what you want

Answer

• Know who you are
  • Know what’s important to you
  • Know how you make decisions
  • Know your priorities
  • Know what you will compromise on
  • Know what things are non-negotiable
  • Know where your boundaries lie
• Stay true to who you are
  • Act in accordance to your decisions
  • Practice being assertive
    • Assertive = standing up for yourself
    • Assertive ≠ Being rude
  • Understand that those who care about you and those who value you will respect your decision

Result

• You will achieve high levels of Congruence
  • Congruence = Overlap between who you see yourself as and who the world sees you as
• Inner peace
  • There’s no disconnect between what you want and what you get
  • Authenticity is liberating
  • Authenticity automatically distances you from people who’re not a good fit

Your Turn

• Identify
  • What’s important to you
  • Your decision making process
  • Your priorities
  • What you’re willing to compromise on
  • What’s non-negotiable
  • Where your boundaries lie
• Use your discoveries
  • In making decisions
  • While interacting with people
  • To think of your future

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• Goal: Increase Job Security With E.P.I.C Transformations
• Mission: Liberate a million millennials from an unsatisfying career
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