Loser Loser Chicken Loser

Till last night, I was too chicken to realize that I could be offering all of my content to companies and their training departments – but I was scared of doing business development.

I was scared of picking up the phone and pitching to people.

I was scared of rejection.

I was scared of failure.

Being blind to fear and not facing it (for whatever reason) – is something that can cripple you and hold you back.

I got lucky and started fixing it. And if you want to know how…. read on.

Situation

• We seem to hit a local maxima
  • There seems to be something holding us back
• There’s an invisible barrier we can’t get through
  • We try different techniques to bypass
  • It seems to be ineffective
• We avoid certain projects/tasks
  • We make excuses
  • We procrastinate without reason
• We are scared of some things
  • This stops us from trying
  • We never reach our full potential

Cause

• We have two types of fear
  • Definite
    • Public Speaking
      • What if I’m judged and people laugh at me?
    • Doing Taxes
      • What if I do it wrong?
    • Doing bubble sort
      • How is this code supposed to work?
    • Making reports
      • This is so boring!
  • Formless
    • Can’t put our fingers on it
      • Like Boggarts in Harry Potter
      • Takes the form of the worst possible outcomes
      • Always cloud like
    • Multiplies and grows
      • Like an evil mitosis
      • Can’t pin it down
      • Can’t contain it
    • It’s familiar to you as a “feeling”
      • A pit in your stomach
      • Feeling hunted
      • Short of breath
      • Sweating
      • Blanking out
      • Dry throat

Answer

• Find ways to…
  • Recognise your fear
    • Trying to describe it by writing it down helps put it into perspective
      • I call it the Paper Trap
      • https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLWlNq7leTk
  • Cope with your fear
    • Take time out to define the WORST CASE scenario
      • Usually, it’s not as scary as we think
      • It may be a price we’re willing to pay
  • Deal with your fear
    • Find help
      • Religion
      • Spirituality
      • Counselling
      • Therapy
  • Work around your fear
    • Don’t avoid it
    • Recognize its presence
    • Figure out how to go ahead
      • Courage is not the absence of fear. It is about going ahead despite it.

Result

• Able to go ahead
  • We know many paths to the same destination
  • We are freed from our shackles
• Not crippled or stymied
  • We are aware of what’s holding us back
  • We know how to bypass our shortcomings & fears
• New avenues open up
  • Freedom gives us new angles to look at situations
  • New perspectives reveal new opportunities
• New opportunities are available
  • New ways for us to grow
  • New ways for us to reinvent and transform ourselves

Your Turn

• Identify your biggest fears
  • Think about how they’re holding them back
• Decide how you want to process it
  • Face it
  • Cure it
  • Work around it
• Get help
  • Find your allies and work with them

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Run by Arvindh Sundar

• Goal: Increase Job Security With E.P.I.C Transformations
• Mission: Liberate a million millennials from an unsatisfying career
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